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The One Shift That Helps Her Feel Heard (Not Attacked)

Rach Episode 32

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Is your daughter shutting you out, lashing out, or saying things that sting — and you’re left wondering how to reach her without making it worse?

In this powerful episode of The Teen Whisperer, we’re diving into one of the most important tools you’ll ever use as a mum: how to really listen — not to fix, but to help her feel safe, seen, and heard.

You’ll learn:

  • What’s actually going on in her brain and body when she melts down or shuts down
  • Why your calm response is more powerful than the perfect words
  • And how to use “regulation-led listening” to turn conflict into connection

If you’ve ever thought “I don’t know how to help her anymore,” this episode is for you. With science-backed tools (like co-regulation and breath matching) and grounded, mum-to-mum guidance, you’ll leave feeling more equipped to hold space — even in the hard moments.

Your simple tool this week? A hug. Or if that’s too much — just your calm breath, beside her.

Because she doesn’t need you perfect. She needs you present.

Download my free 3 minute nervous system reset - simple tools to use in the moment (yes that moment) - when everything is going to pot and you don't know what the hell to do. It's simple, easy and ready to use right now.

A little heads up, I’ve opened the doors again to my WTF Membership and they’re open till 27th September 2025 at midnight BST. It’s my space for mums just like you, where we go deeper into understanding your daughter, decoding her signals, and giving you the support and tools you need so neither of you feels alone in this. Keep an ear out, because I’d love to welcome you inside.

And... if you're local to me (that's in Cumbria, UK) come and join me (and my daughter) for a monthly mums + daughters meet-up that starts at the end of this month. Free, fun, connection, coffee and cake — and a chance for both you and your girl to meet others who get it.

Like what you hear and wish your daughter had her own podcast to help understand what's going on? Send her to Girl You've Got This - my podcast just for girls, availabe on all major platforms.

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